We Are Responsible for Our Own Happiness
Many people spend lots of time and energy looking outside themselves to find happiness. They expect when something good happens they will attain happiness. Some people have the expectation that a relationship will bring them happiness. There are those who turn to alcohol or drugs in the search for happiness. While people look for happiness outside themselves they fail to realize that happiness comes from within us. We are responsible for being happy in our own lives.
When you find yourself, accept who you are and embrace the unique soul that you are, then you can truly find happiness. Being happy comes from within us and cannot be taken away by external forces. It also doesn’t depend on those external forces.
On our journey of self discovery this can be one of the biggest ah-ha moments we experience. When your happiness comes from within you have a totally different reaction to things that happen in your life that are not desirable. For instance, many may have the experience I had recently of losing a job. When that happens completely unexpectedly it could result in unhappiness, feelings of self pity, or even depression. Because I’ve been on this road of self discovery and I realize that the Universe has a plan for us, I took this as a sign that I should take a different path. I took on the challenge and the seed for this blog was planted in my thoughts. Instead of seeing the situation as bad, I took the position that when anything happens it is simply our perception of the event that makes it good or bad. Actually, the situation just is what it is.
When you only think of happiness as positive emotions, we miss the point of true happiness. When we reduce happiness to feelings of contentment or joy, we miss the point that true happiness transcends only emotions. Emotions are simply the release of chemicals into our brains. Happiness goes deeper than a simple chemical reaction. True happiness permeates our subconscious and emanates positive energy into the Universe. The Universe then responds in kind with positive energy toward us.
Isn’t it a little unfair to expect other people or inanimate objects to make us happy? Is it really fair to a person you are in a relationship with to expect that person to be the source of your happiness? Unless we are happy with ourselves it’s very likely the relationship will have a difficult time living up to our expectations. A relationship may give us a happy and contented feeling but it can never be the sole source of our happy feelings. In the same way a relationship cannot be the source of our happiness, neither can possessions. That new car may make us happy for a while, but it will eventually break down and leave us stranded unless we take care of it. If you are happy in your life already, getting a new car can add to your happiness, but if you make the aquisition of possessions your reason for being happy, you will be disappointed. You’ll just be forced to aquire more possessions to feed your need.
So then how do we find our personal happiness? There are many ways to do that. They all start within ourselves. Our journey of self exploration can help us discover the way to attain true personal happiness. Some may find it with religion. Others may find it in meditation or other forms of self exploration. One thing is for sure, being truly happy is about your attitude and how you decide to view the world. To attain and maintain a happy life you have to change your attitude and learn to accept that circumstances are not good or bad. They simply exist. The truly happy person will find something good in any circumstance. The truly happy person will always see the glass as half full, even in the most trying times. They know in their heart that when on door closes, another door opens. No one can be happy all the time. But the truly happy person has learned strategies to deal with unforseen and even dreadful circumstances, and come back better after they overcome them.
Perspective is everything. Learning to remain positive during the challenges in life is an important skill we can learn. Once you learn this skill it helps you maintain a healthy emotional response to every situation you may face. Alain-Rene Lasage once said, “I am happy and content because I think I am.” This is that state of self we all need to strive toward.